Posts tagged ‘thanks’

April 29, 2012

Kreativ Blogger Award

I am very grateful to Currie Rose and to Holistic Me for nominating “Influence Versus Control” for the Kreativ Blogger Award! Currie has been very supportive of my little corner of the blogosphere. Currie has a great blog entitled “Based on a True Story”, which brings truth, humor, and a positive spirit. Holistic Me summarizes her own blog with the Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Life is a journey, not a destination.” I definitely agree with Holistic Me’s philosophy that we “are responsible for our own health and our own well-being. “ I encourage you to stop by these blogs because they are awesome!

The Kreativ Blogger Award works in a similar way to a chain mail, in that if you are nominated, you then nominate seven other blogs for the award in order to accept.

To those I nominate (and for everyone else), here are the rules:

▪   Thank the nominating blogger and provide a link to that blog

▪   Spread the love by nominating seven other bloggers, including their links

▪   Tell your readers seven things they may not already know about you

So, here are seven things about me:

  1. I grew up in Berkeley California. The odd thing about growing up in Berkeley is that people can have a preconceived notion about what those crazy Bezerkley people. When growing up I loved all of the café’s in the Telegraph Avenue area. I also loved going to the original Peet’s coffee. Ummm, coffee.
  2. My mother was an Art History Librarian and UC Berkeley. She was in charge of the Italian collection. I know very little about art history.
  3. My father was a soil engineer. However, I did not end up being good at math.
  4. I received my undergraduate degree in Psychology at University of California at Davis. For the record, I did not get into Berkeley.
  5. After UC Davis, I spent about a year as a substitute teacher for special education classes. This experience was influential in my career decision of becoming an occupational therapist in school-based practice.
  6. I went to “The Ohio State University” for OT school. Spending a few years with actual winter makes me appreciate the weather that I currently experience in San Diego.
  7. I am in the process of writing a book. I started “Influence Versus Control” to encourage me to write on a regular basis.

And my nominees for the Kreativ Blogger Award are (in no particular order!):

  1. David Kanigan – Great thoughts, quotes and images about choosing a positive response.
  2. A leaf in springtime – Inspiring art and ideas
  3. Jay the Baker – A sweat dose of positivity daily
  4. Goss Coaching – Great advice on getting where you want to go in life.
  5. Looking at the Sky – Best described by the author: “My thought today is to keep moving forward.  Looking for new things to create.  Finding new ideas that inspire you to move forward and learn more.”
  6. Momentum of Joy – “Where spirituality meets reality”.
  7. A Kiss of Bliss – Positive art and great ideas. Well written and encouraging.


Thank you all!


April 13, 2012

Finding your Rhythm

When changing a habit or when adding a new activity to your lifestyle, it is helpful to find a time for this new habit/routine.  If we do not know where to place this new habit/routine into our schedule, it is very easy to forget to perform this activity. Once you habit becomes a part of your daily rhythm, it is a lot easier to maintain.

For my own “habit change challenge”, I found that that only way that I could be consistent with implementing my target habits was to find a regular place for them in my daily schedule. Since I have two young children, I found it was best to add my new activities during times of the day when my children are asleep. In the morning, I exercise, meditated and listen to positive meditation podcasts. At night, I blog, journal my successes and list the things for which I am grateful.  Having this structure in place has helped immensely. I have been waking up early and exercising for over a year. After exercising, I have just enough time to shower, get dressed, make lunch, eat breakfast, kiss the family goodbye and leave for work. I have found that I needed to meditate and perform my affirmations before my workout since it was better to have a slightly shorter workout than to miss the opportunity to perform these activities all together.

What works for you! Please share your ideas of ensuring that you have time for some positive time for yourself.

March 26, 2012

GRATITUDE 4 the 7 X 7 Link Award!

First and foremost, I would like to show my appreciation to Marcy King at for the nomination of the 7 X 7 Link award. Marcy has been very encouraging of “Influence Versus Control” and she always provides great comments. Marcy’s site includes great information about her children’s books as well as some cool photography.

And now, the rules for the 7 X 7 Link Award

  1. Give thanks and acknowledgements to the blogger who nominated you for this award
  2. List 7 of your previous links in the following categories. Most Helpful, Most Popular, Most Beautiful Piece, Most Controversial, Most Surprisingly Successful, Most Underrated, Most Pride Worthy)
  3. List 7 things about yourself.
  4. Nominate 7 other bloggers for this award.

Here are my SEVEN Links:

1.) Most Helpful – Setting Personal Goals

2.) Most Popular – Personal Responsibility

3.) Most Beautiful Piece – People First!

4.) Most Controversial – Identity

5.) Most Surprisingly Successful – Being Sick

6.) Most Underrated – Find Your Passion!

7) Most Pride Worthy – Scripting For Emotional Success

SEVEN things about myself (Andrew Gilbert)

  1. The most important thing to me is being a good father. I prioritize spending time with my children as much as possible.
  2. My wife, Emily Dolton, is an inspiring member of the local community and she does much as she can to address the needs of people with special needs. She is also an amazing artist/ muralist (
  3. I have a child that has “special needs”. I definitely feel that his needs do not define him and are just an attribute (see People First blog). The love that I have learned from this “little guy” and overcoming his early health obstacles have been the main inspiration for changing my overall life outlook from “totally cynical” to a “recovering cynic”.
  4. As a “recovering cynic”, I admit that I am not perfect. I have not “been to the mountain top”, but I have seen postcards. I practice every day to be more positive and collect more data to reinforce a more optimistic worldview.
  5. As a school based occupational therapist, I have collaborated on two programs that utilize movement as an instructional strategy. One of these programs was demonstrated to improve vision skills, the other was demonstrated to improve handwriting / penmanship for Kindergarten students. I feel that movement is vital for all of us and that movement is a vital instructional strategy.  (
  6. I love to surf. It helps clear my brain and it is great exercise!
  7. When the surf is blown out  or too small, I like mountain biking.

For this award, I did my best to “spread the love around”. There are some great bloggers that I follow I want to acknowledge Jay Rondo for the Versatile Blogging nomination and “a kiss of bliss” for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award”. Thanks again to Marcy King at for the nomination of the 7 X 7 Link award!

The SEVEN nominated bloggers for the 7 X 7 Link Award are:

  1. – For positive words and art.
  2. – More than just positive baking advice. Consistent positive blogging action!
  3. – Total honest, in your face blogging action!
  4. – This blog reminds us that it is always better to give than receive.
  5. – This blog provides consistent inspiration.
  6. – The name says it all. This blog keeps the joy moving.
  7. – A wonderful spirit! I love the whimsy and honesty.


Thank you very much for stopping by “Influence Versus Control”. Please stop by and say “Hello” to the great bloggers listed in this award.

March 23, 2012

Giving and Receiving Thanks!

Today I am very thankful for being nominated for blogging awards by my fellow bloggers.

To honor this personal “day of thanks”, I began pondering some considerations for giving and receiving thanks. I did not find much information on formal “rules” of giving thanks (with the exception of “Thank You” notes), so most of these suggestions come from my personal experience. I am very interested to hear everyone’s thoughts on this matter.

Giving Thanks

  • Say “thank you” anytime someone does someone nice for you! And I do mean everyone, even the people you may not like the best. Say “thank you” to everyone that does a service for you. Frequently saying “thank you” with sincerity any is a great way to practice appreciation and gratitude!
  • When showing appreciation, say “thank you” versus “I’m sorry”. Sometimes, when I have helped someone out, they may say “I am sorry that I took too much of your time”, or “I am sorry that I put you out”. In these situations, I would have much rather have heard “thank you for your time” or “thank you very much for your assistance”. When I hear “thank you”, I feel appreciated. When I hear “I am sorry”, I am puzzled since “I am sorry” is something you say when you have done something wrong. When we say “thank you”, we can elicit a sense of gratitude. When we say, “I’m sorry”, we are inadvertently conveying a message of regret and/or shame.
  • Reserve the sarcastic “thanks” for your friends that understand the humor of your intentions. When you are joking with your friends, sarcasm can be funny when used in moderation. However, if your co-workers and friends can no longer tell if your “thanks” is dripping with sarcasm or oozing with sincerity, you may have lost a significant “rapport –building” tool.
  • Avoid over-thanking. In most cases, a simple “thank you” followed by the respondents “your welcome” is sufficient. If you continue to say thank you after your thanks has been acknowledged, you may be wandering into the “creepy” zone. I know of many people who start to feel self-conscious when they are thanked too many times. I know of other folks who become wary of “over-thankers” since they begin to doubt that person’s sincerity.

Receiving Thanks

  • Adopt social convention. Receiving thanks is like receiving a gift. It is best to accept it graciously and acknowledge that the “thanks” is appreciated with a socially appropriate response such as “your welcome”. The response “it was nothing” may also be acceptable if it is stated only once.
  • Avoid “depreciating” a “thank you”. If we are in a personal space when we do not feel worthy of thanks, we may have the tendency of “arguing our worth for the thanks”.  This is the case where someone thanks us and we spend time and energy explaining to them that we are not worthy of this “thanks”. The person trying to gives thanks may leave the exchange feeling uneasy. Since we have “rebuffed” a thank you, we have chosen not to feel appreciated.

In compiling this list, I have to admit that I am not an expert on giving or receiving thanks. In fact many of the habits described above are things that I need to practice myself.

Please tell me what you think.

March 22, 2012

Very Inspiring Blogger Award

An enormous THANK YOU goes out to Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko from “akissofbliss” at for nominating me for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award. I am very appreciative for “akissofbliss” and the steady flow of positive messages! The blog “akissofbliss” has been awarded with multiple blogging awards! Please stop by “akissofbliss” for a daily dose of encouragement and inspiration!

Here are seven things about me.

  1. My wife and kids are the most important things in my life.
  2. I am an occupational therapist by trade and I enjoy supporting the needs of students that receive special education services.
  3. I have created a program that uses full body movements to teach handwriting skills to Kindergarten students.
  4. I love to surf every weekend I can.
  5. When I can’t surf, I like to mountain bike.
  6.  I appreciate a good cup of coffee!
  7.  I live in San Diego California.


My seven nominations for Very Inspiring Blogger Are…..

  1. – Jay offers good advice. Thank you Jay for your comments and support.
  2. – Great personal coaching advice!
  3. – Honest, passionate and encouraging posts!
  4. – “The Counselor Muses” – Good advice based on sound clinical experience.
  5. – Giving all readers a “reason to live”
  6. – Very well written leadership blog.
  7. – Another blogger with the mission to bring joy to the world.

Rules for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award”:

1.Thank the person who nominated you.

2. Share 7 things about yourself

3. Pass the award to 7 nominees

I admit that it was challenging to keep the list at seven. There are many blogs that I follow that are deserving of awards! Some already have received awards.

I want to thank the entire blogging community and to everyone who has visited “Influence Versus Control”.

All the best,

Andrew Gilbert




March 8, 2012

Versatile Blogger Award

Thanks and appreciation goes to Jay Rando for nominating me for the Versatile Blogger Award.

I am very grateful for this award. Thank you for the encouragement to keep writing. Thanks to all of you who have been reading “Influence Versus Control”. I am glad to be a part of the blogging community.

Here are the rules to the awards: Thank the person who nominated you and link back to them when you create a post on the award. Share 7 things about yourself. Pass the award on to 15 people you know who have blogs that you follow and enjoy. Contact those people that you have nominated.

More on the Versatile Blog Award

7 things about me: (Andrew Gilbert)

  1. I have an incredible wife who is an artist/ muralist (
  2. I am a proud father of Connor who has started writing a book at 8 years old (
  3. I am a proud father of Aidan, who had probably taught me the most about love and whose early struggles in life facilitated my “cynical recovery”.
  4. As an occupational therapist, I have created a program to teach handwriting / penmanship to Kindergarten students (see and
  5. I love surfing
  6. I enjoy mountain biking
  7. I play guitar, bass and a little bit of drums

When creating this list, I realize that I have defined myself by what I do. However, from my blog postings I feel that it may appear evident that I am doing my best to replace previous cynical thought processes with appreciative, forward thinking, thankful, compassionate and grateful practices.

15 Blogs nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award

I am amazed at how many good blogs there are “Wordpress”. I know that there are more than 15 blogs out there who are deserving of the “Versatile Blogger” award. Two of the blogs that I read regularly and
 are already on Jay’s list.

I wish that I could include everyone on my list of 15. However, like Jay Rando, I choose to list those blogs that I have been following for a longer period of time.

My 15 nominated and most favorite blogs are:

  1. – My first “follower”. This is a gratitude blog from a good friend.
  2. -Great art!
  3. – Good advice for self improvement
  4. – Healing Health and Inspiration
  5. – Mr. P’s math blog
  6. – A “Journey to Enlighten”
  7. – “Inner Peace Transformations”
  8. – A great source of good literature
  9. – A description of one’s Journey to be the best they can be.
  10. – Author of a children’s book with good life lessons
  11. – Great perspective and advice
  12. – Great quotes and awesome mazes!
  13. – “Have a Dream” – A very positive guy.
  14. – “It’s All About Learning” This is a great blog for educators.
  15. a lot of amazing photos

Thank you to all of you!

-Andrew Gilbert